He’s just not that into you

he-s-just-not-that-into-you-poster-1I was very happy when I was invited to join the lovely SexyRedframe and her dynamic friends to watch this chick flick. The cinema was filled with girls and it was great fun hearing all the jeers and laughter while we watched men feeding obvious bullshit lines to completely naïve women.  I then watched my life being played out by Jennifer Aniston. The absolute misery and humiliation one has to endure after being in a relationship for exactly seven years and realising that he will never marry you! If you haven’t watched, stop reading because it is the ending that has me really cheesed off!

What the hell is it with Hollywood and their damn happy endings? The book was written to liberate women from our bizarre and insane habit of staying with a man or attaching ourselves to men that are really not worth our time. It is a very much ‘get real’ philosophy which all women need to embrace. Even in this day and age women still make excuses for their men, stay in love with their potential and remain foolishly optimistic that one day, miraculously he will wake up, look at you and be the lover and partner you deserve. There is absolutely no logic in this train of thought. In our heart of hearts we know we are settling, we know our desires, but hell – you just simply love him. Surely that counts. Damn happy endings. I had the same disappointment watching the Sex and City movie. The series was liberating because it was real, women being blatantly sexual and being vocal with what they wanted in life, what they wanted in a man. Then bam – regurgitated by Hollywood and it’s the flippin knight in shining armor bullshit and the happily ever after wedding in a plain sweet dress. Man rescuing women from a lifetime of promiscuity and lonely nights in front of a laptop! The fact that authors consent to such a debased version of their initial concept – the child they gave birth to – is deplorable.

I wasn’t alone in my opinion;  Redframe’s gorgeous and witty sister was in full agreement and she has actually read the book! We are in the same boat, we want to be congratulated for having the guts to leave our failing men, not being subjected to a soppy ending of a new man, suddenly clean shaven, in a new shiny white suit, going down on his knees and proposing. Again with the wedding scene and the sweet white dress – another woman saved!

Another bit of irony is that the book proclaims we are more often the norm and not the exception. Happy endings are the exception and yet by its very nature chick flicks are the exact genres promoting that continued naivety the book seeks to expose!

BUT when all is said and done: There were some really funny bits and the overall message, albeit slightly twisted in the end, is a good one and that is why we watch these movies in the first place! And I had a really good time in great company!

Well there’s my rant and review…I feel much better now.

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10 thoughts on “He’s just not that into you

  1. i’ll wait for this one to get on mnet – or – better still etv.

    you got to love modern living, suddenly you’re life’s on the big screen and you get to buy the popcorn.

    and just like reality, you’re not totally convinced by it all .

    even the ending.

    perhaps it’s time for you to go shoe shoppen.

  2. It is strange, I struggle to watch any Hollywood movies these days. They all leave me feeling very disappointed.

    Happy endings can be a real cop-out sometimes.

  3. From the girl who NEVER watched a romantic comedy for 12 long years cause I thought it all sucked and was such bullshit:
    (whisper:) i loved it.
    Sorry but DT, you know why.
    I totally agree with all your valid, reasonable and exasperated statements, but I’ve crossed over to the other (white/puffy/tulle) side and am now an incurable romantic.
    Hey, I’m not saying be a dufus and stick it out with the wrong man for 12 long years, but you know… keep the faith. Not of marriage as a happy answer to all problems but just that there are good guys and good relationships out there.
    I know you know all this already. xxx

  4. 302 – The last week of the month is here…new shoes are imminent.

    Po – I know what you mean, but like I said there were some really good moments in the movie and a huge collection of actors. Lots of gorgeous men! Maybe the key is in having adequate expectations.

    Redframe – hehe I do know why and it is wonderful! I will keep the faith and I won’t lose hope – don’t you worry about that, you are an absolute testament to how one’s life can change on a dime!

  5. Generally, I’m not all that fond of chick flicks – give me a good horror or thriller, or better yet, sci-fi and I’m happy.

    My ultimate favourite movie of all time is Sin City… there are ‘kinda’ happy endings, loads of action, short stories inter-connecting and hot guys and gals. Er, and ultra violence. Still – at least it’s not all happy endings and unrealistic wish-fulfillment!

  6. Enough of the blogger lot are talking about this movie, that I think I am now enticed to see what all the talk is actually about! If it’s big & glitzy, then they gotta slap a happy predictable ending onto it. Apparently the Hollywood focus groups complain bitterly when they couldn’t predict the ending & so it’s changed.

    And yup, I have to agree with you, so often the whole point of being happy with & strong in oneself is lost by the “cop out” white wedding ending. Kills me everytime. But hey! It’s great to know one day of whiteness & cake & dancing will save ALL of a girl’s life woes. Hmmmmmmmmmmm!

  7. Rox – I have my moments with Chic Flicks. I have to admit I loved Bridget Jones and Love Actually, even Titanic had me in tears – I know…very sad me! Sin City is great – but I cannot do horrors alone!!

    Hi Champers – you should go see it – it was fun!
    That is interesting, but sad about the focus groups. It just seems anytime there is a type of fresh perspective in popular media, we have to round it off by going back to the Cinderella scenario. Forwards, then quickly back to the start!

  8. Rox – I have my moments with Chic Flicks. I have to admit I loved Bridget Jones and Love Actually, even Titanic had me in tears – I know…very sad me! Sin City is great – but I cant do horrors alone!!

    Hi Champers – you should go see it – it was fun!
    That is interesting, but sad about the focus groups. It just seems anytime there is a type of fresh perspective in popular media, we have to round it off by going back to the Cinderella scenario. Forwards, then quickly back to the start!

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